Post by CaVaRs on Oct 11, 2008 3:00:45 GMT -8
PARANG KAU.. PERO HINDI! HE! HE! HE!
The "parang kayo, pero hindi" stage. Others call it MU or mutual
understanding. Pseudo- relationships. Pseudo-boyfriends. Pseudo-
girlfriends. Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a
phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not
quite lovers. Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng wala.
One or both of you may have admitted your feelings, possible ding
hindi. You just let your gestures do the talking for you. Walang
pormal na ligawan na nangyari. Hindi kayo mag-dyowa. Pero sa
kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi. This kind
of "relationship" can happen at different stages for different reasons.
It can happen after a break-up. You still love each other, and you
want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. And for
reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan. It
can also happen before a relationship, iyong pareho kayong
nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag- seryoso
kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna. Testing lang. Puwede ring hindi
puwedeng maging kayo kasi isa sa inyo may ka- relasyon na. Kaya
habang hindi pa siya nakikipag- break doon sa boy/girl (sabi niya
makikipag- break siya soon pero di naman niya ginagawa), wala
muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya nangagaliwa kasi
"hindi naman kayo." This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can
be fun. Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng "kalaro." Pero
huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala
talagang kasiguraduhan. So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa
ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may
patutunguhan? Iba't ibang dahilan. Puwedeng for fun lang.
Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa wala" or puwede na iyang "pantawid
-gutom." Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna
sa kunwa-kunwarian. For those who are not in a serious
relationship, they would think that pseudo- relationship is better
than no relationship at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is
that "kilig" feeling. But then I learned that although it was only a
pseudo-relationship, the emotions were real. And usually, in this
kind of set up, ang merong malulugi.. nainlove sa taong taken
na. Una, you can't ask him/her to commit. Since it's not really a
relationship, you can't demand commitment from your partner. Ano
ba kayo? You will always be uncertain about your role in his/her
life. You can't expect him/her to be always there with you. And if
you feel jealous of the other boys/girls, you just have to keep it to
yourself. Ano ka ba niya para magselos? Pangalawa, what if you
fall deeply in love with him/her? You can't be sure if he/she feels the
same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka rin niya. Even if
you are dying to tell him/her you love him/her, you can't. Because
you're not sure if he/she will like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang. This
stage will always make you wonder where you are in the
relationship. Or if there is a relationship at all. Pangatlo, what if you
become attached too much? What if you have invested all your
emotions and this man/woman hasn't? What if you remain faithful to
him/her, not entertaining other guys/gals, only to find out that he/she
is seeing other girls/boys? Isa pang downside ng pseudo-
relationships, it is fleeting. When a disagreement sets in, or when
one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. Unlike in a
serious relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang
pseudo-relationship. Wala kang pinanghahawakan. Kasi sa
pseudo- relationship, there is no "us." Meron lang "you and me,"
peri hindi "us". - www.filairsoft.com/forum/showthread.php?t=40467
The "parang kayo, pero hindi" stage. Others call it MU or mutual
understanding. Pseudo- relationships. Pseudo-boyfriends. Pseudo-
girlfriends. Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a
phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not
quite lovers. Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng wala.
One or both of you may have admitted your feelings, possible ding
hindi. You just let your gestures do the talking for you. Walang
pormal na ligawan na nangyari. Hindi kayo mag-dyowa. Pero sa
kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi. This kind
of "relationship" can happen at different stages for different reasons.
It can happen after a break-up. You still love each other, and you
want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. And for
reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan. It
can also happen before a relationship, iyong pareho kayong
nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag- seryoso
kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna. Testing lang. Puwede ring hindi
puwedeng maging kayo kasi isa sa inyo may ka- relasyon na. Kaya
habang hindi pa siya nakikipag- break doon sa boy/girl (sabi niya
makikipag- break siya soon pero di naman niya ginagawa), wala
muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya nangagaliwa kasi
"hindi naman kayo." This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can
be fun. Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng "kalaro." Pero
huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala
talagang kasiguraduhan. So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa
ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may
patutunguhan? Iba't ibang dahilan. Puwedeng for fun lang.
Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa wala" or puwede na iyang "pantawid
-gutom." Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna
sa kunwa-kunwarian. For those who are not in a serious
relationship, they would think that pseudo- relationship is better
than no relationship at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is
that "kilig" feeling. But then I learned that although it was only a
pseudo-relationship, the emotions were real. And usually, in this
kind of set up, ang merong malulugi.. nainlove sa taong taken
na. Una, you can't ask him/her to commit. Since it's not really a
relationship, you can't demand commitment from your partner. Ano
ba kayo? You will always be uncertain about your role in his/her
life. You can't expect him/her to be always there with you. And if
you feel jealous of the other boys/girls, you just have to keep it to
yourself. Ano ka ba niya para magselos? Pangalawa, what if you
fall deeply in love with him/her? You can't be sure if he/she feels the
same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka rin niya. Even if
you are dying to tell him/her you love him/her, you can't. Because
you're not sure if he/she will like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang. This
stage will always make you wonder where you are in the
relationship. Or if there is a relationship at all. Pangatlo, what if you
become attached too much? What if you have invested all your
emotions and this man/woman hasn't? What if you remain faithful to
him/her, not entertaining other guys/gals, only to find out that he/she
is seeing other girls/boys? Isa pang downside ng pseudo-
relationships, it is fleeting. When a disagreement sets in, or when
one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. Unlike in a
serious relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang
pseudo-relationship. Wala kang pinanghahawakan. Kasi sa
pseudo- relationship, there is no "us." Meron lang "you and me,"
peri hindi "us". - www.filairsoft.com/forum/showthread.php?t=40467